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05 September 2017 @ 12:15 am
Last Tuesday, HalfshellHusband had a blackout fainting episode at the house, and fell. He hit his head (no concussion), and he fell hard on his hip... which has several cracks at the top of the femur. No surgery so far, but he could be pretty immobile for the next three months or so.


This is the third major broken bone recuperation in less than two years, and in a few weeks my helpers will be off at college.

I just feel so tired thinking about it, and HSH has it worse, since he has to go through that healing and recuperation yet again. He was enjoying riding his bike again, and doing well apart from those spells of dizziness and loss of equilibrium. But it took Kaiser too long to get to the root cause of that problem, so the inevitable fall happened instead. :(

UGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHhhhhhh. I wasn't able to take a lot of vacation in the Spring, with my office's schedule, and that stretched into Summer. I was hoping to travel this Fall, but now... even going by myself, there'd be some concern about whether HSH needs looking after

WHY? I spent the first two days of this 3-day weekend madly cleaning bathrooms and trying to get as much squared away as I can. HSH is our cleaner, but he is not good about floors of any kind. Plus, in the passive-aggressive standoff between him and our daughter over who was supposed to clean the upstairs bathroom, period, I was the loser. HSH wasn't even able to get upstairs for about a year. After he fell off his bike in October 2015, he broke his wrist and kicked off an angry accelerated path of destruction in that pre-arthritic hip. Then it was hip erosion/replacement/rehab, once the problem became known. Plus, painkillers don't do much for him. All the opioids are blocked by another medicine he has to take, so once again he's treating broken bones with... aspirin. \o?

I feel like I've been in one sort of "wait it out" mode or other for ages now, and this is just so disappointing. And again, I know HSH feels that way too, and worse, so I can't even really say too much about it. *sigh* :)

ecosopherecosopher on September 5th, 2017 07:50 am (UTC)
Oh, wow. This is such a blow. Especially after having had his surgery. And I can imagine that it's so hard on you having to pick up the slack. You poor things, both of you. Huge hugs and I hope he heals quickly, if that's possible, and that you can get a bit of a break to get away.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 5th, 2017 07:35 pm (UTC)
It's so sad-- he had the other hip replaced a year ago, after recovering from the broken wrist (the hip pain started about when the wrist pain faded). So, he's going through the healing on the current hip at less than a year from when he got out from under the first one.

It's just emotionally exhausting, not to mention all of the extra work it creates for both of us.

Thanks for the good wishes. *hugs*
Kizzyxo_kizzy_xo on September 5th, 2017 11:53 am (UTC)
Oh GAH :sigh: If it's not one thing it's another. How's he doing right now? And YOU? There are times I wish I had a magic wand so I could wave it and everything would be OK. This is one of them. Hopefully HSH can heal quickly from all this :HUGS:
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 5th, 2017 07:37 pm (UTC)
He says it's less painful than the full replacement, but at the same time... he doesn't really have pain relief other than aspirin. So, at times it keeps him awake most of the night, and at the end of the day he just reaches a point where he wants to lie down and hope for at least a little sleep to blot things out.

I wish I had that magic wand, too! I would have fixed the dizziness/balance problem, because we knew the risk of falling was extremely high, and sure enough...

Just hoping it's less than the three months of recovery he was told last Friday. :(
adoptedwriteradoptedwriter on September 5th, 2017 12:08 pm (UTC)
Aw crap! Hope HSH's recovery is as quick as it can be. Hugs...That sux...
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 5th, 2017 07:37 pm (UTC)
It sure does! Thank you. :)
Trigger Warning: Lifematchboximpala on September 5th, 2017 01:39 pm (UTC)
I am really so sorry to hear this. I just had a small taste of being a caretaker this spring when my mom and her broken arm was staying with me. It was tough, but at least she could get around on her own. Sending you many good thoughts.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 5th, 2017 07:40 pm (UTC)
It's so hard working full time and trying to keep on top of the house/chores/etc. by yourself.

HSH broke his wrist about 2 years ago, and he was more mobile during recovery from that. He got C-Diff then, though, which created a completely different problem. The hip is awful, though, because it's not just one leg-- it's being careful about what you do with both legs, either for alignment of tendons and such, or here... because there are multiple breaks in that bone, and you don't want them to shift around or the surgery will become a must. :(
riverotter1951: Heart Cloudriverotter1951 on September 5th, 2017 02:24 pm (UTC)
Darn. I hope that his recovery is quick and that the root problem is resolved quickly. I wish that I could be there to help so prayers for healing and adjustment as kids head back to college.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 5th, 2017 07:47 pm (UTC)
His cardiac physician did a drastic re-review of his medicines on the phone the day after his fall. I wish she'd been more motivated to do that earlier, since he'd been complaining about serious dizziness/balance problems for about 4 months now!

Really, both blackout fainting episodes happened on her watch, and both led to broken bones (the previous one was the fall off the bike). It reminds me of my Dad's situation, his last 5 years or so. If you take heart medications that lower blood pressure as a side-effect, you need to use extra care when the patient either already has low blood pressure (HSH) or is taking meds for that (my dad). The cumulative combination is just dangerous.

Thanks so much for the prayers and good thoughts. I wish we had more family nearby, but HSH's brother is spotty in helping (he's in town), and my brother is an hour away... and recovering from a really horrible bout with shingles. We're going to have to hire a housecleaner to cope with this. *sigh*
riverotter1951riverotter1951 on September 5th, 2017 10:28 pm (UTC)
We hired a house cleaning service after hubby retired.

It is a lot easier to keep up once you have the house cleaned.

Direst Ryl: Beech Forestryl on September 5th, 2017 02:42 pm (UTC)
Poor HSH! And poor you! *hugs*
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 5th, 2017 07:48 pm (UTC)
No kidding! Thank you. *hugs*
bleodswean: friendsbleodswean on September 5th, 2017 02:44 pm (UTC)
*hugs* Oh, K. This is terrible. Give G my wishes for a good recovery and please take care of YOURSELF.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 5th, 2017 07:49 pm (UTC)
I will pass them along. We'd hoped to maybe meet up with you this Fall, but clearly we won't be able to get up _there_. I'm expecting some real travel issues for him. I just hope it isn't the 8+ months like last time. :(
swirlsofblueswirlsofblue on September 5th, 2017 04:47 pm (UTC)
Eep *Hugs* Hope he gets well soon.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 5th, 2017 07:49 pm (UTC)
Thank you!
Laura: iZombie Liv Ravicookielaura on September 5th, 2017 08:55 pm (UTC)
So sorry to hear that :( It sounds painful and exhausting for both of you. Hope he recovers as quickly as can be hoped for, and sending you tons of hugs in the time being! And you are totally allowed to be frustrated and disappointed. You must be due some good luck soon! Xxx
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 6th, 2017 06:26 am (UTC)
Thank you! That's very welcome. :)
Ariss Tenohariss_tenoh on September 5th, 2017 09:04 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear this and for the physical and emotional toll it's taking on bbpoth o you. *sends hugs*

Perhaps it's time to find another doctor? This one doesn't sound very attentive.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 6th, 2017 06:28 am (UTC)
It's nice to see you around again!

I would like this doctor to be more proactive than she is, especially regarding HSH's meds and the side-effects of the combinations of them. From my dad's and others' experiences, it appears this is not that uncommon. Doctors tend to focus on the meds THEY prescribe, and no one is standing back and looking at the larger picture. It's all "silo medicine." :(
cindy: chocolate mousetsuki_no_bara on September 6th, 2017 03:41 am (UTC)
oh man, poor hsh. and poor you! that's... a lot of work. i hope he recovers quickly, and that you can get the dizzy spells to stop!
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 6th, 2017 06:31 am (UTC)
With the kids gone, it'll be cleaning, yardwork, laundry, cooking, and groceries, pretty much on a weekly basis. We're going to have to get a housecleaner (though I did some pre-cleaning this weekend to prepare for that), and we may have to have groceries delivered because I hate the grocery store with a passion.

Just hoping this isn't really a full 3 months of recovery-- maybe more like 4-6 weeks. *fingers crossed*
Rebeccabeeker121 on September 6th, 2017 04:42 pm (UTC)
Oh no, that's awful and frustrating for him and for you. I hope his healing goes as quickly as possible. Don't forget to take time for yourself in all this too.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 7th, 2017 01:11 am (UTC)
I hope it's shorter than the 3 months or so he was told on Friday. That is a LONG time. :(

Taking time for me is hard to do, under these circumstances. I'm usually spinning just to keep on top of stuff, and what's left over is usually me wishing things were different! The regular exercise helps, though.
Vice Captain of the Universesweeny_todd on September 7th, 2017 02:45 am (UTC)
oh no. oh no.

just. sending healing thoughts to HSH and so many good thoughts to you!!!

if you need to vent, I've got a shoulder, because it IS all disappointing.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 9th, 2017 06:21 am (UTC)
Thank you so much. I know you know how it feels, returning to the slog over and over again just when you think you're finally out of it! And if you're the one doing the recuperating again and again, I don't know how you bring yourself to keep trying. *sigh*
Portdesertport on September 9th, 2017 03:55 am (UTC)
I'm sorry that happened. for HSH, and for you. I know that feeling of just getting over a major hump and then finding yourself back at square one, and it's not a good one. Wishing you guys the best. *hugs*
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on September 9th, 2017 07:12 am (UTC)
Thank you so much. It's just been an exhausting several years, and having it overlap with the kids going off to college sure doesn't help!