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11 January 2017 @ 02:53 pm
Freudenschade...  
Our daughter is back at college after a nice month off. It was hard to let her go, as that is the longest we will see her for a year.

Today's term? Misery over someone else's happiness. It isn't complete misery for us, but.. unless some snafu happens, our daughter has an internship in DC this summer, which means we might see her for a week before and afterwards, but definitely not the whole summer. It's a fantastic opportunity for her, and we're thrilled for her. But as parents... we will miss her a great deal. I know this is part of a longer process where she eventually leaves the nest for good, but now that we've had a preview of how hard that's going to be for us, we want to cling to every possible moment that's still left!

Last Saturday was a good day. We went out to Tower Cafe to have French Toast (a long wait, but worth it), then went to see Hidden Figures. We've been waiting months for that film to open, and we finally got our chance, even though seating was limited to the front row. We saw it anyway! Very satisfying. Later, there was dinner at home and TV and conversation. *sigh* Over all too soon!

Sunday, I could feel the cold she'd had trying to "get" me. I took my magic "bug-be-gone" pills, and even went out and bought more since I was running low. But by the end of the day, it was clear they wouldn't save me. So, Monday I was home sick, napping and reading a gazillion Idol entries until my eyes burned, and Tuesday was back at work after a long, sleepless night. Last night was better.

Have I mentioned the money-pit better known as our cat? She started getting serious constipation around Thanksgiving, which we remedied at home, but then the combination of her being listless, cold, weak, and having lost weight meant a visit to the vet. She has early-stage kidney failure and a heart-murmur, and has now had antibiotics for a kidney infection... which resulted in unrelenting diarrhea. Meanwhile, vet bills are up to about $1500 now and they want us to do an electrocardiogram. We brought this little beast home from the shelter at age 4 (almost 5, apparently), and she's always shown signs of being immunocompromised but is otherwise well-loved and happy. We're trying to ride the line between extreme measures and losing her too soon, so we're holding off on the EKG, but she has special kidney-friendly food and various medicines that she mostly hates. She still isn't generating a lot of body heat (and by now is very happy to be wrapped up in a blanket, whereas all previous cats thought that was the first step toward death by jailing or something). But she's happy, and she's playful again. And the 4-day trip the kids and I made up to Oregon shows once again how attached she is to The Boy. He's really worried about when he goes off to college, since he's anticipating being in a dorm, where no pets are allowed. We would definitely let him take her, if he could. Trying to pass her off as a therapy animal would be pretty dodgy, though, and the the truth is that he's her therapy human. Yeah. (^.^)(__)~~

Okay, back to work. Late this afternoon there will be garage-biking (yes— we've had a solid WEEK of rain), and then trying to get something working for the new Idol prompt. Yark.

 
 
 
Vice Captain of the Universesweeny_todd on January 13th, 2017 01:40 am (UTC)
an internship is pretty impressive though!

I had never heard of that movie... sounds like you had a glorious day though :-)
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on January 13th, 2017 08:05 am (UTC)
It is impressive! She's had progressively bigger ones each summer, but up until now they've all been local (we live in our state's capitol city). Going to the other side of the country for the summer will be thrilling and expensive for her, but sad for the parents.

"Hidden Figures" is about several key black women who worked for NASA during the Cold War Space Race program. They dealt with racism as well as sexism, and still managed to accomplish big and important things.
Vice Captain of the Universesweeny_todd on January 13th, 2017 08:20 am (UTC)
ohhhh! yeah! I have heard of that movie. I just couldn't remember the name, but I've got the image from the poster in my memory. Glad it was worth a view!
cindy: soup of the daytsuki_no_bara on January 13th, 2017 02:16 am (UTC)
i love that your cat has a therapy human. i'm glad she's doing better. one of my coworkers, her daughter's a freshman in college and managed to keep a cat in her suite for a length of time. the cat was discovered and is now living with my coworker. not that i would ever suggest your son try to hide the cat in his dorm room. ahem.

congrats to your daughter! she wants to go into politics or the civil service, doesn't she? because dc sounds fabulous. sucks for you and hsh, tho. :( you should go visit her. :D
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on January 13th, 2017 08:09 am (UTC)
I think that if our son tried to smuggle the cat into his dorm, she'd get busted the first time he left the room for more than an hour and she wandered back and forth howling that "Wauw?" sound of "Where is everybody?"

Our daughter does want to go into civil service, so this is an incredible opportunity for her. Sad for her parents, but amazing for her! We do plan to go visit her (HSH has never been back East, and would like to see the sights), and have threatened to go into her office and watch her work. You know-- exercising PMT (Parental Mortification Technique). Wouldn't want those skills to get rusty!
passing_throughpassing_through on January 13th, 2017 02:24 am (UTC)
I sympathize on missing the college-aged girls but her internship sounds like an incredible opportunity. What will she be doing?

I still want to adopt two cats but I'm not 100% there yet. I'm not quite ready for the responsibility.

I've been wanting to go to the movies lately and that sounds like a something I would like.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on January 13th, 2017 08:12 am (UTC)
She'll be working for one of the large government agencies (I don't want to say which one), and won't know the details until she starts. It probably will not involve answering telephones and talking to the angry/confused/less-than-sane constituency, like last summer's internship at the state Capitol.

Have you thought about adopting one cat at a time when you're ready? Though if you mean something like, adopt two cats who need to be together, that would be even more awesome! They're hard to place.

When we went to the shelter looking for a cat that was at least 1 year old, the staff were SO happy we were there. It's just not very common, and nobody wants older kitties to be euthanized because it's easier to find homes for kittens.
passing_throughpassing_through on January 14th, 2017 02:20 am (UTC)
I'd like to adopt two older cats that are already together, if possible. That way I know they'll get along well with each other. I don't want kittens because while they are cute, they would be too much work and I don't have patience for that anymore :)