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15 July 2016 @ 01:47 pm
Update on All The Things  
Sorry for the radio silence. When I get overwhelmed, I tend to withdraw. Last week was not only "Surprise!EarlyHipSurgery" for HalfshellHusband, but also (after some recent layoffs) a presto change-o priority overhaul at the office. Now, instead of finishing the work I'd been doing to help get out a soon-to-be-released feature, we're all getting hijacked early to the "main" project and I'm now working back under a manager who does not like me. And is also very grim, these days. Ugh.

I came home and ate a lot of chocolate the day that was announced (last Thursday). Now, of course, the new people are flailing because there's no one to train us and the documentation is out of date. My office has apparently never really absorbed the software management adage that Adding more people to a late project makes it LATER. :(

In HSH news, his surgery went well. They released him less than 24 hours after the surgery finished, which I was NOT expecting. Had to rush to get the house ready, namely the chair and bed where he'll spend most of his time. This wouldn't be necessary if his legs weren't so long, but they are, so he needs an ultra-high and firm/stable chair, and the bed needs to be ultra-high.

I was a little worried about him coming home so soon, but the physical therapist thought he was ready and there were no surgical complications. Turns out it's probably just as well: the surgical team did not coordinate with his cardio team, so he had no LASICs in the hospital, no special diet, and they put him on a saline drip. He came home 14 pounds heavier than when he left—in one DAY. Getting that water out is a struggle. If his LASICs dose is too high, his blood pressure drops and he gets really dizzy. When it's not high enough, the water doesn't budge. However, with the pacemaker in now, he can now drink caffeine again and take advantage of its diuretic properties (and it won't lower his blood pressure). Diet Coke to the rescue?

He's getting around pretty well, and while he's in a lot of pain it's still a little less than before the surgery. The real agony of trying to move around is gone, but the background level of pain is higher. OTOH, he knows it will only get better rather than keep getting worse. We both wish the incision had been on the side of his thigh (like before), and not up the back. Sitting and lying on it make it hurt more. :(

I'm doing better now, late in the week. I worked at home through Wednesday, partly because I'm sleeping in the guest room now and that has NOT gone well. The bathroom is right on the other side of the wall, and HSH's walker is very loud if he needs to move around. Plus the porch light and bathroom nightlight make the room too bright, and it's on an east-facing corner. I've turned off lights, I've brought a cloth to put over my eyes in the morning, and I'll refresh my earplugs tonight. All of that has helped over the last few days.

The kids are being very helpful, though it took awhile for our son to grasp that his father can't be home alone just yet and also that the 4Runner needs to be available in case a doctor or hospital run is needed.

So, good thus far? Or, on the way there? The work thing, though... there's no helping that. :(

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Murielle: Scrunchedmurielle on July 15th, 2016 09:41 pm (UTC)
I'm so glad HSH has had his hip surgery. I too have been scarce, but have been praying for HSH.

Sorry about frustration at work. That's all you need, right?
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on July 15th, 2016 09:49 pm (UTC)
Haha-- yes! With everything else going on, the chaos and depression over the work situation really did not help.

Thank you so much for keeping him in your thoughts. I'm really hoping the pain will fall off a little soon, and finally let him sleep well for the first time since last October. He may get a major drop around 10-14 days after the surgery, and I hope he does. That's often the magic window for post-op or post-injury pain.
Direst Ryl: Cocktail Downloadryl on July 16th, 2016 12:07 am (UTC)
When it rains, it pours, right?

Healing thoughts to HSH and a kick in the painful parts to managers who don't know how to manage.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on July 17th, 2016 06:58 am (UTC)
Thank you. He'll appreciate the good thoughts, as do I. :)
cindytsuki_no_bara on July 16th, 2016 03:12 am (UTC)
sounds like work is a clusterfuck and you deserved that chocolate. it sucks. (work, obviously, not the chocolate. unless it was genuinely bad chocolate.) on the other hand, i'm glad hsh's surgery went well and he's home!
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on July 17th, 2016 07:00 am (UTC)
Yes, he's making little improvements each day, though there is still a lot of pain (and most of that excess water weight!)

Work, though... ugh. The shift was inevitable, but I was hoping it would be farther off in the future. Months, if possible. :(
ecosopherecosopher on July 16th, 2016 07:49 am (UTC)
Hoping that HSH recovers very quickly. Such a major operation but fingers crossed it will help in the long run. Good grief, all that weight in one day; he would have been glad to get rid of it (although I guess having to go to the toilet all the time would have been a hassle).

Sorry to hear about the work situation. Ugh.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on July 17th, 2016 07:02 am (UTC)
It should all get easier from here on out, including the pain and the trouble moving. Then both hips will be new-ish, and should behave themselves going forward.

The water weight... ugh. Three LASICs pills makes him dizzy and he spends all day going to the bathroom, but two doesn't seem to make a difference at all. His lower legs are awfully swollen, as a result. :(
Trigger Warning: Lifematchboximpala on July 16th, 2016 08:14 am (UTC)
Sending my best wishes for a swift recovery. xoxo
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on July 17th, 2016 07:02 am (UTC)
Thank you so much! *hugs*
adoptedwriteradoptedwriter on July 16th, 2016 11:31 pm (UTC)
Hope HSH continues to progress more each day. AW
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on July 17th, 2016 07:03 am (UTC)
Thank you. I think he's getting more sleep, on average, as the pain gradually gets better. There are some bad nights, but I think he's already had two where there were 5-hour stretches of sleep and that hasn't been true since last fall. It's definitely progress!
Princess Robot Bubblegum!astrothsknot on July 17th, 2016 05:12 am (UTC)
I'm so glad HSH is on the mend

Sorry about work though, you wonder what they're thinking sometimes
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on July 17th, 2016 07:07 am (UTC)
He'll get better and better as the pain recedes, though it's still pretty strong right now. He's lost that problem of the hip getting "stuck" when he tries to move, and then the excruciating pain, simply by putting the new one in. Joints without cartilage are not how humans were designed to work.

For the office, a lot of this is the trend toward cracking the whip from above and everyone rushing to change toward the new direction. It used to be that what to build and in what timeline was left to the subgroups to manage for themselves, and now... people far away from the side-effects are just yanking the chain to follow the "flavor of the moment" idea about what we should be doing. It's ridiculous, and annoying to those down in the trenches. :(