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13 April 2016 @ 10:43 am
Prom Drama...  
Last night was an ongoing saga of our son and another boy texting back and forth about which of them should ask the girl they both like to the prom. They couldn't settle on one of them knowing her better, and it reached the Prisoner's Dilemna stage of whether one of them would just decide, "Every man for himself!" This culminated in our son driving to the store to buy flowers (because he suspected the other boy would make a move), and the other boy in parallel asking the girl by text (!). And then the backing away and regrouping, as the girl was horrified by the text (just as a concept even, because no kidding—rude!), and she didn't want to be "asked that week."

You would think ALL of the participants were teenage girls, and yes—there were even third-party boys having text-storms in the background with this girl, and side-communications and the whole bit. Criminy.

I suspect (and HalfshellHusband broached this to our son this morning) that this girl is probably hoping someone entirely different will ask her, and our son should just ask his second-choice instead, before it's too late.

As parents, this is all foreign territory to us. Neither of us were "prom" types, and neither was our daughter. Still seems like a lot of weirdness, TBH. Maybe even moreso now! :O

So, was anyone inspired to add Bride And Prejudice (updated Bollywood version of Austen's classic) to their Netflix streaming list after my post the other day? It's worth it, I promise!

Sometimes, it feels as if I'm just talking to myself here. My friends-list used to be so active, and now I have so many people on it who never comment—but post plenty themselves (shy lurkers are different—I understand you, have no fear!). People are in "broadcast" mode instead of interactive mode, and some of them are friends I used to talk to avidly! Maybe they were just here for the fandom-related stories, and I've become totally boring. \o?

Which is to say, I can't tell if random phrases I throw out like college-student pity-cookies need more explanation, or if the meaning is obvious? And to update... the cookies turned out a little "flat-tasting." Either they needed more salt, or my random home-chemistry substitution for the missing milk did not fully work. Perfect texture (crisp edges, soft middle), etc., and they were good, but not their usual "fabulous." :(

God, how is it only Wednesday? I have early morning meetings every Tuesday that make Wednesdays feel like they should be Friday. *drag-drag-drag*

Kizzyxo_kizzy_xo on April 13th, 2016 05:55 pm (UTC)
Hoo boy, do I remember my own prom drama: The guy I wanted to go with (and had an obvious crush on) wanted nothing to do with me, but I wouldn't take no for an answer. Meanwhile my best male friend was dying to ask me because he had a secret crush on me (I didn't discover this until later) but I refused to go with him NOT because we were friends but because he was a geek and I didn't want to be seen in public with a geeky prom date. AIEEEEEEEEEEE! Turned out that best male friend and I both ditched our dates at the after-prom party separately and we ended up staying out all night talking (yes, actual talking, no funny stuff) until the sun rose, LOL.

I love that "college student pity cookies"! Do you remember how much salt you put in? I'm thinking that would be the reason for the flat taste as opposed to the milk substitute. What did you use?

Yeah, I'm kind of feeling the same way re the FL. Mind you, I do have a stable of friends here who intentionally post to interact, but I notice they've been not posting as often. I'm trying in my own way to interact but yeah, it's nowhere near the level it used to be :(

The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on April 13th, 2016 06:13 pm (UTC)
I was one of the "drama group" kids in high school, and it seemed like prom was mostly cheerleaders and athletes. So there was no chance I was ever going to be asked, or wanted to go! But there are a lot more "regular kids" going at my son's school, so that's different.

Sounds like you effectively DID wind up going to prom with your friend, at least the part that mattered more than the photos and dancing? :D

So, these cookies are PB chocolate-chip, and I use Extra-Crunchy Jif (the king of peanut butters!), which has a fair amount of salt on its own. If you use unsalted butter, it's not enough salt. Salted is TOO much. I've done half-salted/half-unsalted, but then you have half sticks lying around. I went with unsalted plus about 1/8 tsp salt, which was maybe not quite enough.

The milk. Ugh. It was sour, and my internet research led me nowhere. I used 3 Tbs of water and about 3/4 tsp of coffee creamer. In terms of baking chemistry, that seems to have worked! \o/ But, still the taste wasn't quite perfect.

Our daughter's sense of taste isn't particularly good, though, so I'm hoping she won't notice. ;)

The broadcasting thing... some of these are people who added me as friends in the last couple of years, and I have to wonder why? Many have never commented on a single entry. Was it to increase the potential audience for their own broadcasting? \o?

I know I've lost a couple of folks to Dreamwidth, and even more to Facebook, but I hate FB and I keep my fandom/RL separate. LJ is still my favorite. :)
(no subject) - xo_kizzy_xo on April 13th, 2016 08:30 pm (UTC) (Expand)
the middle of the road's fine with no cars aroundnoodledays on April 13th, 2016 06:03 pm (UTC)
I don't get prom drama either - I hope it works out okay for your son.

too many Wednesdays lately have felt like they need to be Friday. ;o
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: heh-hehhalfshellvenus on April 13th, 2016 06:16 pm (UTC)
Your kids are too young for prom still, aren't they? A lot of this is all unknown to me, but our son is the only extrovert in a family of introverts, so this was probably bound to happen. :O

You know, sometimes my Mondays feel like they should be Fridays. :D
(no subject) - noodledays on April 13th, 2016 06:18 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - halfshellvenus on April 13th, 2016 06:20 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - noodledays on April 13th, 2016 06:24 pm (UTC) (Expand)
bleodswean: friendsbleodswean on April 13th, 2016 06:24 pm (UTC)
I, too, was not a prom type and The Viking has a convoluted high school story which certainly didn't lead to any sort of prom attendance. BUT Kidling1 is a princess in disguise and she had her heart set on it which worried me....but shouldn't have. Not really. She did get asked, and she charmed her father into spending the big bucks on a princess gown and she was definitely the only one attending in such an unbelievable cake topper of a dress....but she looked gorgeous and still talks about it. So, that worked out.

Kidling2 was homeschooled.

Damn, I hear you about the broadcasting. I fear that I, too, have become a broadcasting type. And I trace that back to several things. First, when I began to bullet point my posts. Second, when everyone left for FB and back-and-forth commenting here became a thing of the past. Like, literally, overnight. We went from 200 comment posts to zilch and it was pretty shocking and that shockwave is still being felt. My problem now is getting back in the groove of responding to comments...as the last year or so have picked up for me. I credit therealljidol because that's the only major change I've had on the flist and in my postings. Still....I have a zillion new adds the past two years of which I never see a single post or comment. So, what's that all about?

I will try to comment more here, K. I VALUE your words, find your thoughts interesting and relatable and truly enjoy your posts!!!

And good onya for sending a care package!

Edited at 2016-04-13 06:24 pm (UTC)
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on April 13th, 2016 06:51 pm (UTC)
Kidling1 is a beauty, though I think you and the Viking are more counter-culture types-- so she probably surprised you! I'm glad it was worth it to her, though. My younger sister went (an extrovert unlike me), and I have no idea who the boy even was. I think she was dating him (I was at college). However, the pretty dress and the Bo Derek braids survive in photo. :O

I fear becoming a broadcaster myself, partly because Idol takes up so much time when we're in the thick of it, but I do read and comment on others' post-- just not always until a week or so late. :( Very upsetting when big and possibly unhappy news has happened to someone.

I always enjoy your posts, even those where I don't comment. I'm glad you update so often, and there are always interesting thinky-thoughts going on in there.

I LIKE thinky-thoughts. It's one of the things I miss most from some of my friends. My Prison Break friends have most disappeared (so many of them were awesome people), and some of my thinkier SPN friends have vanished to Facebook or who knows-- Tumblr? Off the web?

One of the things I like most about LJ, though, is comment discussion-threads. Whole conversations spawn in there, and most other media seem to be largely back-and-forth. Boo to that!
(no subject) - bleodswean on April 13th, 2016 06:59 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Seantalon on April 13th, 2016 06:35 pm (UTC)
Ahhhhhhhhh prom drama. For the record, I lurk, but find these posts fantastic :P
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on April 13th, 2016 06:53 pm (UTC)
Did you have any prom drama yourself, or did you just watch from the sidelines and laugh at the weirdness?

I'm glad you lurk and read-- and glad you're still around! Is this you in the picture with the puppy, or someone famous and that's a ridiculous question entirely? :O
(no subject) - talon on April 13th, 2016 08:40 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Direst Ryl: A New Friendryl on April 13th, 2016 06:56 pm (UTC)
A lot of life's problems can be solved with 1950s educational shorts. For prom drama, I recommend Beginning to Date which gives a step-by-step guide for how to ask a girl out and not get rejected. (Step 1: Call, don't text.)

Of course I didn't go to prom because my prom was Titanic-themed and if I had to listen to Celine Dion caterwauling there would have been a reenactment of Carrie happening.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: heh-hehhalfshellvenus on April 13th, 2016 07:04 pm (UTC)
I think asking in person is probably the best way (NEVER TEXT, for the love of god, never text!), though nowadays it's a whole big thing. As in, on the level of a public wedding proposal. Ugh.

Probably inevitable for kids who grew up in an era of having preschool and kindergarten graduation ceremonies, though, isn't it? We just had the high school one, and that was plenty!

my prom was Titanic-themed
Ugh! I forgot these things had themes, even. (god, I'm so out of touch).

At a "classics" movie theater, there was pimping of a reshowing of the Titanic, complete with the trailer... which reminded me again of why I can never see that movie. Di Caprio's modern-ness alone would be too distracting, and then there's the epic spectacle and draaaaaama of it all.

I have the feeling it falls squarely into "chick-flick" territory, and I'm just not the audience for that!

I kind of think having you introduce Carrie into that prom setting would have been a night to remember, though. For you and therapists everywhere! \o/
(no subject) - ryl on April 13th, 2016 07:26 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - halfshellvenus on April 13th, 2016 07:32 pm (UTC) (Expand)
swirlsofblueswirlsofblue on April 13th, 2016 07:29 pm (UTC)
Eep, sounds complicated.

I think LJ in general is just quieter now. It's unfortunate.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on April 13th, 2016 07:34 pm (UTC)
It's sad. From what I can tell, bugwise, featurewise, and otherwise, it's still heavily used by Russians. But so many people have gone onto the next shiny thing-- and it's usually a less interative thing!

Those who remain and just broadcast... I don't understand that. Especially the ones who used to fully communicate, and now sometimes don't even respond to comments :O
(no subject) - xo_kizzy_xo on April 13th, 2016 08:35 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Hillary: Batsxlovebecomesher on April 13th, 2016 11:01 pm (UTC)
Oh prom. I was going to go with a 10th grader that I liked but my mom was having none of that considering he wore plaid pants and had a lip piercing (*gasp* .... then again it was 2003). I was upset at first but got over that (considering he also had a lot of other issues). In retrospect, I'm glad that didn't happen. I ended up going with two of my best friends and a guy we knew from middle school and hung out all night and my high school hosted a casino night after party and went there. Relatively drama free!

That girl sounds like a lot of drama - I hope he realizes that and soon!

I do read - I haven't commented a lot to a lot of people just because of things going on in personal life but I do read my FL every day.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on April 13th, 2016 11:25 pm (UTC)
It sounds as if your actual prom was really nice-- more low-key, and more of an event you got to be part of rather than some big dramatic RO-mance situation.

I agree about the girl herself here sounding like drama. Part of the issue may be that none of these kids are actually dating each other. Which I would have thought we be a first step to asking someone to prom! But then again, I only know what I see in movies. :O

I'm glad you're reading, and I hope it's not boring you! I know there's a lot-- a LOT-- going on in your life right now, with your mother and work and school. It's a tough period. I appreciate knowing you're reading, though, so thanks for letting me know!
(no subject) - xlovebecomesher on April 14th, 2016 01:21 am (UTC) (Expand)
riverotter1951riverotter1951 on April 13th, 2016 11:04 pm (UTC)
My daughter enjoyed her prom with a group of friends [boys and girls]. My son decided to go solo and had a good time.

The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on April 13th, 2016 11:28 pm (UTC)
Solo! See, I think his friends could go solo and perhaps dance with some girls who are going solo. And yet...

He's hanging with a different crowd this year, more peppy and "school spirit" types than his former crowd of mostly mopey recluses. He's having a lot more fun with the new kids, because while he's pretty adaptable, he's an extrovert at heart and this is more his style.

Still, it's different for us. I vividly remember avoiding school pep rallies after the first two or three, and he's more likely to be part of the 'talent'. :O
(no subject) - riverotter1951 on April 14th, 2016 12:24 am (UTC) (Expand)
passing_through: timothy olyphant aka badass raylan givenpassing_through on April 14th, 2016 12:47 am (UTC)
I went to three different high schools in four years (went from Texas to Maryland and back to another part of Texas) and prom really wasn't an option for me, being the perpetual new kid and all. I would have liked to have gone, but it didn't work out that way.

My girls went their senior year. My band daughter went with three of her friends from band (2 girls and a boy) and they invited my other daughter along. One of the girl's mother drove them down to Austin, hung out while they "prommed" and then brought them back. They were home my midnight. The best part, for me, was being able to help them get ready. I got to help with hair and make-up and nails and choosing of the dresses, shoes and jewelry and it is one of my most favorite memories that I share with my daughters. I'll be forever grateful that I was able to share that experience with them.

I post every day on my journal. I have a very small flist because I've trimmed it down to people that I feel like I know somewhat and I'm comfortable posting about my private life with. I noticed that you added me as a friend (wich made me squee a little bit because you're an incredible writer) and if you'd like, I'd be happy to add you to my daily posts filter. I have to warn you, though, it's mostly real life stuff, bitching about work, talking about my girls, random posts made up of things I find on Pinterest and occasional fandom stuff. (I came from the Brokeback fandom, progressed to Queer As Folk and now I'm all about Supernatural and J2). I've been doing daily posts since January 1, 2013. It started out as a goal which I didn't think I'd keep, but I did. Now it's pretty much my daily dose of therapy. There's not always a lot of interaction between me and others, but I know they're reading because we talk in their journals about stuff I've posted.

Anyway, enough of the word vomit. If you want in, let me know and I'll be happy to add you :)
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on April 14th, 2016 05:25 am (UTC)
How nice that you got to help your daughters get ready for their proms! Our daughter went to a prom with some friends, and that was who helped her shop and get ready. I didn't get to see any of it but the pictures, though she looked wonderful. :)

I'd love to be included in your daily posts! As you can see, talking about kids, work, interests, and other random stuff constitutes most of my non-story blogging. :D

More than two years of posting daily-- that's amazing. I try to post at least every week, minimum, but sometimes it goes longer than that. Fits and starts-- like my life, really. ;)
cindytsuki_no_bara on April 14th, 2016 03:24 am (UTC)
who would've guessed that teenage boys could be as dramatic as teenage girls! i admit i'm kind of amused at all the back-and-forth texting over asking a girl to the prom. i asked one of my friends, once i decided i wanted to go, but between me asking and him saying yes, i decided i didn't want to go after all. >.< obviously i went. i had fun! but i think i would have had fun with my friends who didn't go.

i found out later that the guy i asked really wanted one of my other friends to ask him. (he went to a different high school, so it's not like he could ask her himself.) but there was still a lot less drama than your son and his friend and their text storm.

mmm, cookies.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on April 14th, 2016 05:29 am (UTC)
but between me asking and him saying yes, i decided i didn't want to go after all. >.<
Hahaha-- that would totally be me!

The last school dance I went to was 9th grade, where a boy I liked from another school kept urging me to ask him to our dance, and so I did... and midway through the night, he took up with another girl. That kind of soured me on things!

Plus, I'm not a big fan of ritual, and proms kind of fall into that category for me. Plus... god, the music. That was squarely in the disco era, and I hated the music so much.

i found out later that the guy i asked really wanted one of my other friends to ask him.
! You see? Unless it's someone you're already dating, the weirdness is always lurking. :O
(no subject) - tsuki_no_bara on April 15th, 2016 01:24 am (UTC) (Expand)
Athelas K. Weedmalinaldarose on April 15th, 2016 10:25 pm (UTC)
Just catching up, so don't think I've seen the post yet, but I loved Bride and Prejudice, and rewatch it every so often.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on April 15th, 2016 10:40 pm (UTC)
I'm glad it has another fan! My husband actually asked if we owned it, so he likes it even more than I realized.

He and I saw it on DVD years ago... then decided there was no reason our kids (about 5 and 7 couldn't see it)-- and they loved the music/dance/color.

Then we rewatched again as a family when they were older. When my daughter was reading "Pride and Prejudice" in school, and said she wished she'd seen a movie version, I told her that she had! She started to compare the characters from the novel, and there was Mr. Collins-- a bore even in modern guise as Khali-- and Mary was doing a cobra dance for company instead of playing the piano, but was every bit as embarrassing as in the story. More.

I think that even now, my son could probably rattle off the tune for "No life without wife," and he hasn't seen the movie in 5 or more years. So catchy. :)

Edited at 2016-04-15 10:51 pm (UTC)
Princess Robot Bubblegum!astrothsknot on April 22nd, 2016 11:20 am (UTC)
myself, i was always here for the life stuff. i've fell away from most fandoms
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on April 24th, 2016 07:08 am (UTC)
Yes, me too nowadays. But the actual life stories are what keep me here. I've made some terrific friends through it all.

How are things going for you nowadays? They were leaning in the right direction in your posts late last year, but nothing was quite finalized. Have things worked out, or are they getting there?