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14 October 2013 @ 06:09 pm
I signed up for Yuletide late last night, which is always an experience of its own. I never seem to get the hang of nominating fandoms OR suggesting tags, so as a result... Reaper isn't on the list this year, and Live Free Or Die Hard is somehow missing John McLane as a specifically-requestable character. If I'd been remotely on the ball, I'd at least have fixed that last part. That forced me to change one of my requests and one of my offerings. Also, the "must offer" minimum is five now instead of four, which kind of threw me. Let's hope I don't regret the fandom I offered at the last minute!

In other news, my birthday is coming up in less than a week... and I have no ideas for gift suggestions to give my husband. :( This is worse than usual, because this will be my 50th (God, HOW?). Given that it's a milestone birthday, my husband wants to give me something momentous, but I don't really want or need anything. Christmas is like this, too. For better or worse, what I want are intangible things (family health, weight loss, an absence of sudden surprises that eat into our bank account). I typically acquire songs (once in awhile), not albums. I borrow books unless I really want to re-read them often. If we buy DVDs, they're usually TV series now and not movies.

It's like something gekizetsu was saying last week: I'm generally content with the material things we have, and don't want or need more except to replace things that break. I'm not a big jewelry wearer, I'm not a spa-and-manicure type of person, and I have the bike I need. All of that is really good as a long-term thing, but for occasions involving presents, it's kind of troublesome.


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a rearranger of the proverbial bookshelf: Traveling the roadembroiderama on October 15th, 2013 01:31 am (UTC)
What about something experiential rather than material? Like tickets to something amazing or a special trip?
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on October 15th, 2013 05:25 am (UTC)
That's a much better idea. I'll look to see what's around. Thanks!
Kizzyxo_kizzy_xo on October 15th, 2013 12:00 pm (UTC)
This has become my standard, even before I turned the big 5-0.
minnesattva on October 15th, 2013 01:33 am (UTC)
I've always preferred experiences to possessions so for my presents I always have asked partners for a day out at a museum/zoo/art gallery/ehatever's around that's fun, or a really nice dinner, a visit to a nearby city, a nice out at the theatre or a concert we want to see, something like that. No material clutter, just memories of a special day.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on October 15th, 2013 10:54 pm (UTC)
This is a great idea. My husband did this for me last year. I should see what the Symphony and Ballet are up to this year. There must be something I'd want to see!
Trigger Warning: Lifematchboximpala on October 15th, 2013 01:41 am (UTC)
A gym membership & a few sessions with a personal trainer.

I don't need anything either (or at least the things I do want I wouldn't ask anyone to give me, like a scooter), but for my 50th my mom and aunt put together a basket of 50 monkey-related items and it was fantastic. It took them four months. I've given half the stuff away to kids (which they expected), but I am actually going to use some of it, like my monkey-shaped tea infuser.


The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on October 15th, 2013 10:56 pm (UTC)
I exercise regularly and strenuously-- it's more of a 'wishful thinking' thing, as my metabolism isn't that great and my hypoglycemia makes me hungry all the time.

I like the monkey-themed idea (themes in general). What a great infuser! So much more exciting than the metal teaballs you usually see.

Thanks for the suggestions!
Port: leaningdesertport on October 15th, 2013 07:33 am (UTC)
I signed up for YT yesterday and probably made myself available as a writer for too many fandoms. But for some reason the challenge is really appealing to me this year, so why not go for broke?

Happy b-day in advance! *hugs* I share your and gekizetsu's approach to life and things, which does make me harder to shop for. To be honest, my mom gets me socks a lot of the time and I am so happy about it. So... maybe ask for socks? :D
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on October 15th, 2013 10:58 pm (UTC)
:D The only people who still give me presents are my husband and kids, and it's letting THEM down that makes this so hard. I have no wants or needs, not workably!

It's a nice place to be, day-to-day, but not so great when people want to give you things.

Though at least I don't have my Dad's special talent of having no Wish List whatsoever, and then going out and buying stuff for himself about a week or two before his birthday. Wow.
Kizzyxo_kizzy_xo on October 15th, 2013 12:06 pm (UTC)
If worse comes to worse, are there any books/gadgets you'd be interested in? That's my second choice if somebody can't/won't gift me something experiential. Extended Family has a Secret Santa, and we have to provide some kind of list. My always go-to's if I don't have anything specific are kitchen gadgets, cookbooks, pr gift certificates. Or $ so I can get my hair done or something like that. The year SO was laid off I received a bunch of grocery gift cards, and that meant more to me than anything else.

Or -- a piece of clothing. One year I asked for a good winter jacket, or boots, or something I've seen that I'd never spend $ on but I love it enough to want to own it. Mind you, this almost never happens, but it has. Right now I've got the heated afghan I asked for draped over my shoulders. I've asked for an electric blanket, crazy fuzzy socks, and always, something for The Kidz.

Edited at 2013-10-15 12:08 pm (UTC)
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on October 15th, 2013 10:59 pm (UTC)
It's gifts for my husband and kids to give, which is harder. We do have a heated throw blanket, which I got for my husband a few years ago. OH, how we love that in the winter!

I'll keep thinking, though I'm running out of time and that's frustrating to the family. :O
Desireex_disturbed_x on October 15th, 2013 03:21 pm (UTC)
This is my first year signing up for yuletide so we'll see how ti goes. It had a lot more fandoms then I thought I'd be interested in!

Happy b-day! I have no idea about gifts. :(
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on October 15th, 2013 11:00 pm (UTC)
Good luck with Yuletide! It'll be an experience, for sure. I hope I'm still on the pinch-hit delivery list-- that's where I get my inspiration to give extra gifts to people for Yuletide Madness. :)
Princess Robot Bubblegum!astrothsknot on October 15th, 2013 05:19 pm (UTC)
I ask for money for birthday and xmas, because like everyone else here, I have enough stuff and you can't take it with you. I use the money for holidays and experiences, the stuff you can't buy
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on October 15th, 2013 11:01 pm (UTC)
How are things in the House of Stewart these days? Maddening? Better? Or somewhere in between, in that "Couldn't eat a whole one" territory?