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09 November 2010 @ 06:07 pm
Birthdays and other things  
Okay, I've hit a cluster of November birthdays and I need to just do blanket greetings before I wind up being late on every single one of them. The fact that I thought today was the 8th is a very bad sign already.

Happy Birthday to wenchpixie, gretazreta, jeza_jezaro, and tyrical, and many happy returns in the coming year ahead! If any of you ladies would like a birthday drabble, just drop me a comment below-- I'd be happy to oblige!


I had some vague plan to Clean All The Things on Sunday. What I actually did was to admit defeat regarding my office-room closet and the ongoing mildew situation. I've painted and repainted, I've caulked, and years later the problem persists. So I took allll the fabric I'd been storing in there and put it through the washing machine, and am almost done ironing the whole mess and separating it into three Goodwill piles (large size, quilter's fabric, and kids' craft fabric) and my own "keep" pile. I sorted through all my sewing patterns, for keep or donate. I also smell-checked the cotton batting in there, and threw some out and moved some to a safer (dryer) location. Same with the cover-it-yourself throw pillows.

As a side-effect, I removed some other stuff permanently from that closet, and also cleaned out the linen cupboards. That included a grocery bag containing a few of the kids' stuffed toys AND the damn pirate-ship cake-kit I wound up rebuying on Christopher's birthday a few years back. Remember that? The random toys/etc. in the bag were fallout from HalfshellHusband's first year of ECT (shock) treatments, when he went in every 2-3 weeks. At home, he randomly "put stuff away" that amounted to losing things. :(

HSH cleaned the mildew out of that closet, and I'll finish putting the remaining stuff back. It's really frustrating, though, not to be able to actually use that closet. It's huge- 3 doors! Even DampRid can't keep the moisture down. This is the dark side of older lathe-and-plaster houses...

In other news, on Monday our local paper reprinted an article from the New York Times about Toddlers and iPhones that I found fairly alarming (and on the plus side, Christopher was appalled by it too). I'm definitely more old-fashioned as a parent on a lot of things, and this is one of them. There's plenty of time for kids to discover video games (and TV) when they're older, but I think delaying it really helps them learn to solve their own boredom problems and try out creative play. And, as a side note, I don't think parents should try to entirely avoid "inconvenient moments" when raising kids. I.e., those little frustrations and hitches in life are often character-building both for you and for your child. The easiest choice is not always the best choice, long-term. /soapbox

Now, a completely random question about something else entirely: Should I write up a Wincon report, or is it too late to bother? Thoughts?

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tyrical: Action_smiletyrical on November 10th, 2010 04:22 am (UTC)
As if I would say no!!!

I'm in a DH4 kinda mood!

BTW thank you soo much for the wonderful wishes!
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: John/Matt Lovehalfshellvenus on November 10th, 2010 05:48 am (UTC)
Mmm, mmm, mmm. DH 4. I'll get right on it!

And I hope it's been a lovely day. Glad I was on time at least for yours, which I thought was tomorrow. :0
mercurybard on November 10th, 2010 05:13 am (UTC)
Toddlers and iPhones that I found fairly alarming
TM (the toddler that lived with me for part of the summer) could find "his" game on both his mom and Crash's iPhones. He's 2.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Yikeshalfshellvenus on November 10th, 2010 05:54 am (UTC)
I imagine his mom thought that was cute, too. :(

Say, did you get the Steampunk email I sent you? Lots of great pictures. :)
Princess Robot Bubblegum!astrothsknot on November 10th, 2010 10:10 am (UTC)
Letting kids play with iphones doesn't bother me. What bothers me is parents using them to pacify or bribe kids rather than parent them.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on November 10th, 2010 03:44 pm (UTC)
And that's pretty much what the article covered-- a lot of pacifying rather than parenting.

I still personally believe in delaying that whole visual/stimulous overload until kids are older, but to each his/her own on that score!
jeza_jezaro: hugjeza_jezaro on November 10th, 2010 02:57 pm (UTC)
Thank you for the wishes ^.^

Me? How about a WeeChesters birthday story? That must be absolutely adorable if you write it :D ^.^
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Birthdayhalfshellvenus on November 24th, 2010 02:13 am (UTC)
Sorry this took so long! Canon is making it hard to write anything remotely happy/light for SPN right now.

I hope this is the kind of thing you were looking for. If not, I can try again. WeeChesterFic tends to be bittersweet for me than simply happy, so please let me know!
realpestilencerealpestilence on November 10th, 2010 03:34 pm (UTC)
I've been Cleaning All the Things since last night, and I am BEAT. D:

I had a customer yesterday-one of our regulars-who always jokes about his daughter being spoiled, at length, in that "not-really-joking-but-wants-you-to-think-so" way. I've got little sympathy for him, because she didn't spring up spoiled overnight, all on her own!

If I had kids, I'd be the meanest mom ever. No cell phones/ipods/other toys like that; little tv/videos/video games, and NONE if their grades dropped. ~cracks whip

I'd restrict their computer time, too, and get that program where you can restrict sites they go to. No Facebook/My Space...maybe a journal, but if they do, it'd better be locked up, no personal pics/bio and I had better be friended, lol.

I just don't see that children or even teens ~need all that. They're not adults, and giving them too much, too soon, simply accelerates their already over-sophisticated behaviour.

The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: weechestershalfshellvenus on November 10th, 2010 05:42 pm (UTC)
Haha! You'd be pretty much the same kind of Mom I actually am.

I'm a big believer in limits and love, in combination.

And there are a lot of things that aren't bad in and of themselves, but which I think are bad for certain agest of children. Video games for babies/toddlers. Trying to teach the first grade curriculum in kindergarten. PG-13 movies (sexual content) when my daughter is 15-16? Maybe not. Right now at 13 (and previously, at 11)? No- I need to know the content first.

Lauren is the only one of her friends who doesn't have a cell-phone (her friends sure don't need theirs, overall, though a couple of individual kids actually do). We got her an iTouch for her last birthday, though, in part because it had reached the point where she was starting to feel "lesser" (as in loved less) because all of her friends have that kind of junk and she doesn't. And that's a battle I never wanted to face!

Our kids have limited video/TV time, and they are the same thing. If Christopher spends his time on Saturday playing video games, he's out of football-watching time. He gets 1/2 hour on weekdays (might be an hour now, assuming his homework is done). On weekends, he gets an hour after he has read for an hour, and he can earn a second hour by exercising for an hour (or running 1.5 to 2 miles). On rainy days we let him read for an hour to get the extra hour. This would work less well if he didn't also love reading. And there are times when he chafes (usually, not wanting to get off the TV/computer right now!), but when he's not in the heat of the moment he actually thinks it's a good policy. Especially when compared to his couch-potato friends. :0

The whole computer/video/ipod/etc. thing... it's kind of a parenting nightmare. It creates "perceived need" in kids (and adults!) that is not actually a need, and adds a whole new minefield to life.

But... no-one ever said the job was easy!
JJjolietjones on November 10th, 2010 10:03 pm (UTC)
Hi there *waves*

I would certainly read your wincon report if you got around to it. Just saying. :D
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Yay!halfshellvenus on November 10th, 2010 10:07 pm (UTC)
Good to know! That would definitely make it worthwhile. :)

My, but Dean looks disturbingly eager here... :)