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11 June 2010 @ 12:37 am
This aardvark walks into a bar...  
I think I've discovered self-policing, in the form of laziness. You were all spared a rant yesterday on the outcome of California's Primary Election because I ran out of energy to post. Aren't you glad?

Remember that link I posted the other day to Sweating To The Zombies? (and I don't mean the 60s group) HSH and I watched the news video on that site, and that was the final incentive I needed to sign up for Warrior Dash! I'm a little behind on the running (thanks to the vacation & last Sunday's temperatures), but I plan to go tomorrow in the monster wind, and as I get closer to October I'll be adding in some climbing training for the weirder parts of that event. Whoo!

We finally finished S3 of Chuck. Brandon Routh figured heavily this season, and damn if he isn't incredibly handsome. I was also intrigued by the similarities between Shaw and Chuck, as if Shaw had been where Chuck once was (innocent and good-hearted) and worked his way to something more detached and dangerous. It's those subtle touches I like in writing, so much more than big fat anvils...

Christopher's friend was released from the hospital today, and briefly visited the class. All the kids were incredibly happy to see him (just to have him out of ICU, even). There's been some offline chatter among the parents, because we haven't heard whether his brain tumor was malignant or not, and the adults are still worried about that. No-one wants to ask his mother, who is overwhelmed right now. She's a single parent, and she and the kids had been living with her mother until disagreements forced her to find her own place. HSH and several other people helped her move last Sunday, which was her original moveout date, but you'd think her mom would have cut her some slack. I don't know what went on there, but I can't think of a worse time for it. We're still keeping our fingers crossed for her son, and if you have good thoughts to send his way I'd appreciate it.

In other notes... there's an LJ friend I've had for over a year who's hopped around quite a bit, changing her username and deleting journals and such. A new name showed up on my f-list in the last few days, and I can't tell if that's her or another mutual friend who may have disappeared instead. Neither one of them has me friended at the moment (well, because at least one of them is "gone" right now, too).

What's distressing about this, at least for the person I'm thinking of, is that she's a talented woman with a fresh and interesting take on things, and I've really enjoyed our writing and other discussions. But she's moved around because she feels unsafe expressing herself, namely in that people have re-posted parts of her private (friends-only) entries elsewhere.

I've lost a fascinating online friend, and she's lost a great space to be herself in. And I just don't get the whole "frenemy" thing—none of us is perfect, obviously, but if you're rolling your eyes at things people post or getting hot under the collar (for whatever reason), then if you can't let it go... why not just defriend them? Or (radical thought, I know) just accept that this is an area where you don't see eye-to-eye, and let it pass. Why is that so hard? Where does this urge to hurt people come from? :(

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cindytsuki_no_bara on June 11th, 2010 04:31 pm (UTC)
the warrior dash looks kind of fun. (well, for various defintions of "fun", anyway....) i mean, it has beer and warrior helmets! what's not to love?

i'm so glad christopher's friend is doing better! fingers crossed his tumor isn't malignant. his poor mom. :(
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Psycho Penguinhalfshellvenus on June 11th, 2010 04:45 pm (UTC)
the warrior dash looks kind of fun. (well, for various defintions of "fun", anyway....) i mean, it has beer and warrior helmets! what's not to love?

Anything that advertises itself (in "Men's Health") as 'The Weirdest Freakin' Day Of Your Life!' is pretty hard to resist, I think. Plus, it combines an obstacle course with a race, and as a grownup you never get to do obstacle courses unless you're on a game show or in the military.

We're thinking hard about Christopher's friend, who is definitely doing better apart from any long-term prognosis. I feel so for his mother-- what a convergence of awful timing. Plus, her oldest is going to college next year. :(
be: sickbeascarpetta on June 11th, 2010 06:24 pm (UTC)
I really can’t imagine anything worse than having your child diagnosed with any severe illness and having to move at about the same time. Makes you wonder what kind of person does this to her own daughter, no matter who was to blame for the falling out in the first place.
Whatever good thoughts I’ve left in me go out to this poor woman.
Funny that you should mention those strange goings on at lj. Some of exactly the same stuff has happened to me and I’d really like to know whether that person I actually mourned because I thought she had simply lost interest in talking to me or had moved on is identical with the friend I didn’t know I had and who suddenly appeared on my friends list, but never friended me.
Glad you had such a wonderful time. Wasn’t it just bliss to have HSH all to yourself?
I can’t remember the time we actually had a decent conversation about something apart from who was going to take whom to hockey practice, get new shoes, calm down some irate teacher, type out assignments because task couldn’t be done by son himself due to some unfortunate accident and a ton of plaster around right arm/hand…..*squishes you because iz so glad you’re back*
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on June 11th, 2010 07:39 pm (UTC)
I just hoping everything works out for her and her son (who is a wonderful boy), and that having friends helps ease some of her stress.

Some of exactly the same stuff has happened to me and I’d really like to know whether that person I actually mourned because I thought she had simply lost interest in talking to me or had moved on is identical with the friend I didn’t know I had and who suddenly appeared on my friends list, but never friended me.
Yes, it's exactly this. I've had some painful defriendings this last year, but in this case I know why this woman (if it's her) feels so guarded. Her trust has been betrayed several times, and that changes you. :(

Glad you had such a wonderful time. Wasn’t it just bliss to have HSH all to yourself?
Oh, it was SO nice. To remember adult conversation, or sit quietly with no-one on the verge of imminently bursting in, or to have more intimate time on our own schedule without having to wait for everyone to be out of the house or asleep (including the kid who gets up all night long)... we really needed that! We've had a little time to ourselves in the last few years, but it's been on the order of a few days or a week at a time but always at home (not enough time to plan to get away).