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06 August 2009 @ 07:35 pm
Con tickets arrived...  
Which makes me want to go all over again, except for the roommate situation. Why is nothing ever simple?

Speaking of which... we're slated to go camping tomorrow, which the kids look forward to all year (I look forward to the hiking!), and HalfshellHusband is thinking he won't be going (diarrhea, rectal bleeding, and other unpleasant symptoms arrived today to keep the nausea company).

*sigh* I do virtually all of the organizing for this, and the packing, but the thought of the kids fighting with each other all weekend and my hiking being limited by Lauren's wimpy tendencies (since there'd be no-one to stay behind with her)... not so much fun. Though if he's that sick, it certainly wouldn't be fun for him!

*sucks it up* *hopes it doesn't spew back out* :(

ETA: Yup, it'll be a solo operation. Please let the kids not kill each other, and in turn, me not kill them. :0

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The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on August 7th, 2009 06:32 am (UTC)
I hope so too! The weather looks okay, and we have our favorite site. Plus, no big forest fires that I know of-- last year was a little smokey.

Please let the kids not make me nuts... :0
wrldpossibility: stock bowl of lemonswrldpossibility on August 7th, 2009 04:26 am (UTC)
Oh, I'm so sorry. It's hard enough to go camping/vacationing with kids without your partner with you in the best of times, let alone when he's going through such physical distress. I hope you're still able to hike.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on August 7th, 2009 06:33 am (UTC)
My daughter keeps trying to coerce me to bring along one of her friends, and I keep telling her that this is enough work already without the dynamic of her younger brother feeling left out (which transforms him into a complete pest).

What I need is another grownup, not another kid. ;)
bebeascarpetta on August 7th, 2009 06:41 am (UTC)
I just wanted to let you know I'm about to leave for one of these trips with three teenage boys tomorrow morning(of course comparing this to what you've got on your plate borders on ridiculous)and I'm not too happy about it.
I've gained some weight since I did the very same thing last year,so hiking will not be as much fun.My husband somehow managed to end up pulling weekend shifts,stepping in for a friend.
Moreover,I hate packing(and forgetting the most needed items at home,then having to go without the basics all weekend and bringing everybody's wrath down on me) and the boys will surely be at each other's throat.I was adamant about them not bringing along any digital gadgets,either,which on hindsight may have been a bit hasty.
I wouldn't have dared to comment here,because obviously you've been through such a lot ,but then I thought maybe you'd like to know that at least for the kids-cum-camping-bit you are definitely not alone out there.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on August 7th, 2009 06:44 pm (UTC)
Did you have to "fly solo" last year too? That's the part I'm really dreading. Not the logistics, exactly-- I'm better with the organizing, putting up the tent, than my husband.

It's more the weekend of potential fussing, and how to work in the hiking I want (because I am selfish, and this is all I get now, and I'm a road-warrior!), and then back to the fussing again. ;)

I have a list I maintain year-after-year for camping (same as our summer vacations, or Disneyland) which really helps. The running around and gathering, and then the Tetris-game-exercise of packing it in the car is no easier, but at least stuff doesn't tend to get left at home!

I know what you mean about the electronic gadgets dilemna, too. We bring along tons of books, and there's a swimming hole at this campground, and some neat boulder areas the kids like to explore. But the evenings... god help us all. We tend to go into town for dinner, partly because I don't want to lug food to cook over a campfire (other than s'mores!), and also to cut some of that open yawning time out. Even worse with teenagers, since they stay up later!

I feel for you, and I do appreciate your commiserating with me! It really does help.

If you want my packing list, I'll email it to you and you can modify it for your own uses. ;)
bebeascarpetta on August 9th, 2009 09:04 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry your reply somehow managed to end up in an account I've been told not to access anymore.That's why I'm only getting back to you now.I would really appreciate your list,because my list actually consists of 6 smudged bits of scribbling.
No, I didn't have to fly solo last year,but then my husband doesn't care about putting up a tent(he is a surgeon,you see,belongs to a rare species of men that are particularly fussy about their hands)and he was quietly amused that he didn't have to go this year although he does like to camp.
I'm afraid you won't like the way I tried to keep them(19,17,15)busy this year.(and yes,we had to come back early,because son aged 15 managed to sprain his ankle because he tried to climb a tree,something he had never considered doing before,got up further than I would have given him credit for(although I didn't know at the time that he was up that tree,because I was busily shooing around the other two lads).
He is tall and underweight,still apparently too heavy for one of the main branches he was on- I'll spare you the rest.
Before that it wasn't too much of a hassle because one of them (17) is into photography(no girls at the moment,mind you) and the oldest one is currently doing a major project on microbiology so there was a lot of clicking away and sampling of most threatening creatures going on.
They(3 tall,lanky lads,shoes sized 12-13,5) collapsed onto their air mattresses at around 9.00 pm!! and their snoring kept me up all night.They had wolfed down everything there was to be had for money in the small village nearby before caving in.[I did not cook,which would have been cheaper,but I was so fed up having to take them on my own that I decided I'd cut corners later]
And believe it or not I kept them entertained by quizzing them during the hike.The oldest one told me it had been the best thing ever although it did come to an end rather abruptly.
Hopefully,this hasn't put you off.Please do let me know how your trip went.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on August 10th, 2009 05:34 am (UTC)
I'll send you the list-- and I'm sorry you went the same weekend I did, because I was hoping to get it to you beforehand!

We got the tent up fine- other than the people across the way with their popup trailer watching us like a zoo exhibit. It's getting it packed up again that's always awful, and this was the worst time yet- the rainfly was soaked (that was new), and the ground under the tent got a little muddy. So the packing/sweeping off took a really long time, and since my daughter proved an incompetent sweeper... it was a one-woman operation and not rolled tightly enough to go back into its stupid container. This is a big tent that no-one will EVER pack into the woods, so why must the container be 1 cm larger around than the tent?!?

The kids fought on and off (Christopher (10) got sent to the creek a LOT), and we ate out both nights. I'd thought about bringing hot dogs for the first night, but my picky eater couldn't commit to anything... and then suggested that very thing when we stopped at a gas station. We don't cook out either, except for s'mores, because it's too much to pack the cooking stuff and extra food. We tend to eat in the nearby town, which was unavailable (wedding & music show at the two facilities). So we went down the road to the really expensive place we'd hoped to avoid, but at least the food is good and the kids enjoy feeding the frenetic trout (aka eventual dinner) at the place's pond.

I had to threaten Christopher with the sprained ankle scenario the first night there (he was running downhill on a trail filled with loose rocks and tree roots), which sounds like your son. WHY must boys be so impulsive and dingy? And I see you didn't escape the constant fighting either, even though yours are much older!

My daughter hung in even for the 6-mile hike (she was eager at first, then there was a lot of moaning throughout). My son loved it-- tons of energy and strength and stamina, and he's always had an unusual appreciation for the beauty of nature that most people don't have until they're grownups. That hike goes past a lily pond and several streams up to the base of Long Lake, and then across the dam (feels like navigeering at that point) and later winds past two other gorgeous lakes. He was really thrilled with the number of lakes we saw that day (it's called the "Lakes Basin Area" for a reason), and my daughter was happy with her accomplishment afterward. She had much less trouble on today's hike- it was shorter, but she didn't tend to fall back as much.

We got back to the campground around 2pm yesterday from the 6 mile hike, and had a little time to see what goes on in the middle of the day when no-one's around. Chipmunks, up on people's picnic tables and scooting around peeking at their stuff and hoping for treats! This morning, while packing up, Christopher scattered some crumbs through the grassy meadow next to our site to see who would show up. Juncos, sparrows, and a couple of golden-mantled ground squirrels that came right up through our site and wandered around at our feet.

All in all, the kids had a great time and I had a good time despite the fighting and the incredibly cold first night. And I did not kill them, though I was sorely tempted a couple of times. ;)

Got an email address for me to mail you the list?
bebeascarpetta on August 11th, 2009 01:07 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much
It's most kind of you to offer to send it to me.
This will definitely come in handy next year.If you could get it to beascarpetta@hotmail.com that would be great.
I'm glad your children behaved and didn't give you any trouble.You sure must be proud of your daughter to have hung in for the six-mile hike.You must be a very talented writer(I did notice when I read your fiction while we were still enjoying PB),because your description is so vivid that one feels part of it.You should think about taking that up as a profession.Please forgive me if I managed to put my foot in it somehow by mentioning this,but this is straight from the horse's mouth,as they say.
Apparently,my sons must have enjoyed the trip, because they want to go off on another one before they go back to school,but I won't fly solo twice a year.
And my husband's next vacation won't come up before Xmas.
By the way,how's your husband? I thought you were one incredibly brave girl to do this on your own,but then what other choices,if any ,would you have had? Take care and let me know if there is anything I can do to help from my little corner of the universe.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on August 13th, 2009 01:11 am (UTC)
Re: Thank you so much
Thanks for the kind words about the writing. :) I sure miss the PB fandom, and oh, how it has died away!

It's nice to know that after a weekend of singular grief, your boys viewed it as a fabulous time and want to do it again. It means you did something right, regardless of any frustrations and internal struggles at the time. And as a parent, those moments can be awfully rare!

My husband started feeling better on Saturday (stopped throwing up, finally, and the diarrhea faded away), and he went for his first bike ride in ages on Sunday. He's had bouts of nausea since, but I think he hasn't thrown up since then- that's what really drives him crazy. The nausea is bad enough, but fighting to keep food down is worse.

He's going to remind his doctor of this again before his next chemo session (next Friday!). Apparently, they can adjust the "cocktail" to reduce the nausea effect. It went better the first round, and now he's back to about where he was after the first round - tired, nauseated off and on, but he can mostly get out and do things in small doses (and then nap afterwards). That's so much better than being housebound!

I sent off the list-- hope you received it, and that it will simplify some of this for next time.

A friend from the office borrowed another friend's popup trailer last weekend (I could have used that!), and he noted that it WAS cold Friday night... but that the popup trailer has a heater. :0

JJ: sam-sucksjolietjones on August 7th, 2009 10:31 am (UTC)
Major suckage!!

So sorry to hear that HSH is so unwell. I haven't commented for a while, but I have been reading all you have to say. Can you go camping another time perhaps? Take the kids on a day trip instead? It sounds like a lot of work to take them camping/hiking alone, you brave woman!

I hope it works out.

And for goodness sake, what's a family wedding when you can go to a con, lol?!
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on August 7th, 2009 06:48 pm (UTC)
He was hoping to go as of about 9am this morning, and by 10am was solid-certain he couldn't. He's just feeling awful, and I kind of hate for him to be alone all weekend in that state!

This is our favorite camping site, and we have the reservations, and the weather is good. Day trips are no good for my wimpy daughter, since hiking is the part of camping she enjoys least. So I'm going to suck it up and just go. It's probably more me worrying than any actual 'horror story' that'll happen.

And for goodness sake, what's a family wedding when you can go to a con, lol?!
Especially not even a wedding, but a "wedding re-enactment," since the two of them chose a quicky Justice-of-the-Peace marriage in May, not even dressed up, and my niece is 18 and has just thrown away her future on being a military wife to her on-and-off high school boyfriend. Gah!
dr. henry killingerliberateourtime on August 7th, 2009 09:02 pm (UTC)
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on August 10th, 2009 05:37 am (UTC)
I knew it was a possibility when we got my husband's cancer diagnosis, but you always hope it won't quite come to that.

He stayed home, and fortunately stopped throwing up on Saturday. First day in over a week that he hadn't thrown up. He's feeling a little better today.
brigid_tanner: boys-hug Dean's facebrigid_tanner on August 8th, 2009 12:10 am (UTC)
Hope it goes WAY better than you think it will!
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on August 10th, 2009 05:39 am (UTC)
It did, though the fighting-- THAT was no better than I'd feared. Gah!

The logistics went pretty well, though, and the kids were SO happy I took them even though their father couldn't go.