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01 June 2008 @ 01:55 pm
 
My Sweet Charity fic is done and posted, and what a relief to have some room for randomness! Just in time for summer SPN challenges, I'm sure.

Our local paper today feature a column by Leonard Pitts that brought tears to my eyes. I love his writing in general- the combination of intelligence, a reasonable tone, and often warmth and/or humor makes any one of his columns worth reading. The man writes from a standpoint of deep humanity. But even in a string of consistently good offerings, some stand out from the pack.

For those of you who are parents... today's article "Talking 'Bout My Girl" will probably affect you just as it did me.

Other terrific articles from the past include one on Christianity and gay marriage, which is a hot topic in California right now with the State Supreme Court having narrowly overturned a ballot measure voters approved to ban gay marriage (as the Court should have. If the larger public had decided prior Civil Rights at the ballot box in the 1960s, we would likely still be living under Jim Crow laws).

Finally, there is this April 2nd column on race from black and white perspectives.

I cannot recommend his writings highly enough.


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The Huntress: UCFhuntress69 on June 1st, 2008 09:28 pm (UTC)
I don't know if I should kill you or kiss you, cause you made me reflect and I hate reflecting. I happen to have met Leonard Pitts a few times and he is a nice man and yes, very intelligent. But this article got to me, because my daughter is almost 14 now. I knew times were changing when we could no longer buy anything in the girl's dept and had to start going to the junior dept. When she told me that her 34A bra was now too small and I had to take her to the "proper" bra store (translation=Victoria's Secret). When she fit into juniors size 3 pants because girls size 12 didn't fit her right. When she told me that she wanted to start using scented liquid soap and body spray because they smelled better than the Ivory soap she's been using forever. Oh, and when her conservative (and how he got that way I have no idea, cause I didn't raise him that way) 20 yr old brother said she was dressing like a "skank" because she was wearing halters and her midriff was showing LOL.

My how the time flies....

Edited at 2008-06-01 09:29 pm (UTC)
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphorshalfshellvenus on June 1st, 2008 09:50 pm (UTC)
Oh, that article was so bittersweet. We go through the pain of this even now, just missing when our kids were babies and toddlers, and though they required a lot of maintenance, life was simpler with them then. Our love and interactions with them were so much less complicated. Plus, they were adorable, and much as I love the children they are now I also mourn the loss of the children they were. *is a sentimental sap*

I happen to have met Leonard Pitts a few times and he is a nice man and yes, very intelligent.
You are a lucky woman! I wound up sending him fan mail after posting this. It's not the first time I've considered it, but the "moved-to-tears" was the impetus I finally needed to make the effort.

20 yr old brother said she was dressing like a "skank" because she was wearing halters and her midriff was showing LOL.
I fear the point when my daughter wants to dress like that, which will come someday. Right now, she's not-quite-eleven, but we can see those teenage years looming ahead. :0

The Huntresshuntress69 on June 1st, 2008 10:12 pm (UTC)
I tell ya though, I nearly made a remark about the halter tops and hip jeans being to "grown up" for her, but then I remembered my own Mother acting the same, and it was like "OMG! I WILL NOT BECOME MY MOTHER!" My Mom's opinion was that if you dressed that way, people would think less of you, but I know better. I guess it was an automatic response, a sort of denial that my little girl is growing up. I never saw that with my son, because I swear, he was born an adult and even by 4, he was more mature than I am to this day LOL.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: weechestershalfshellvenus on June 1st, 2008 10:18 pm (UTC)
I guess it was an automatic response, a sort of denial that my little girl is growing up.

I'm not sure it's a bad response, in that if you look at who's more likely to be sexually taken advantage of (i.e., maneuvered) and to pay the higher price of pregnancy, it's girls. So that probably should be a wake-up call to a parent! Even if it's just, "Is my daughter prepared to deal with the kind of attention dressing this way might get her?" and "Where do we go from here?"

Which isn't quite the same as, "Get back in your pigtails and Winnie-the-Pooh shirt!"

I tell you, though, I miss the days when my daughter wore pretty clothes. As opposed to all-jeans-and-t-shirts/sweatshirts-all-the-time. :0

When I see a toddler in a strawberry- or watermelon-themed bubble suit, I get pangs.~~~
The Huntresshuntress69 on June 1st, 2008 10:44 pm (UTC)
See, my daughter was a tomboy from day one, I always put her in jeans and tee's, just like I wear LOL. I know she's a good kid, but some of her ex-friends are on their way to becoming, and I hate to say it, little sluts. Oh yeah, I can tell. Not from the style of dress (it's just the styles, I am the last person to judge on appearances) but from their attitudes. I say ex-friends, because she made the choice, telling me that they were "acting" too old, and trying to impress boys, which she doesn't do...not yet anyway. I know it will come, but I like to think I have raised her right, and at least she knows if she doesn't want to talk to me (what teenage girl wants to talk to her mother?) she can talk to her brother. For all his teasing and ragging on her, he always listens and most of the time, offers good advice.

God, I should have just had pets!