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06 March 2007 @ 11:36 am
SPN_25 Pimp and other news  
First, Supernatural writers, if you haven't checked out the prompt tables at spn_25, you really should. There are now eight of them (I added one last night), and they include one for Romance and one for Sexin', not to mention thinky themes for Supernatural as a whole.

Only 25 stories to write, and more than one person can claim a table. Try it, you'll like it. :)

In RL news, my Guitar Hero dreams (and most of my alone time) have been put on hold because of construction at my house. We've removed a wall to convert a bedroom into a family room, and pocket doors are being added and a closet moved and wood paneling removed and re-added. To summarize: there are people in my house all the time now-- if it's not the kids, it's construction people.

The ongoing RL aspect that is that has been taking its toll for awhile is my Mother-in-law's health. She went into a convalescent home in January after breaking her hip and shoulder in a fall, and then mid-February she fell in the convalescent home and broke her other hip and a wrist. She had surgery on her hips, which went much better than we'd feared (they used an epidural anaesthetic, which was a huge relief, as she's 86).

She's back in the convalescent home, and her physical recuperation is going really well. But other side-effects are creeping in that she has never had before, and they're very emotionally hard for her children to deal with. The main thing is that she has Sundowning syndrome, where as the evening comes on she gets agitated and paranoid and confused. She doesn't remember why she's in the convalescent home, she wants to go home, she's distrustful. :( I just Googled this term, and it's usually associated with Alzheimer's or dementia, and that's even scarier.

My husband has to keep going down there-- sometimes starting around dinner time, other nights it's 10-11 pm. This is very upsetting for him and his siblings-- it's like a preview of something the don't want to happen to her (because we are certainly all hoping that it isn't really happening right now, i.e. that it's temporary and not a permanent change for her.

*Sigh* So, if it seems like I'm coming and going more than usual, that's partly why. And yes, that's a big reason my SPN Valentine's fic didn't make the deadline. My husband had to keep leaving, and someone has to be with the kids, so... Fortunately, they don't know the current state of things, and I hope that it blows over soon.

On the side of gratitude, my husband destroyed his hip about 10 years ago, and his recuperation and pain were just hellacious. He wasn't allowed to put weight on it (with the walker) for 4 weeks minimum. My M-I-L has been walking short distances since 2 weeks post-op, and has nothing like that level of pain. So that is a huge relief.

Okay, sorry for all the sad news. I usually don't post this kind of stuff, but then-- we usually don't have problems like this that last more than a week or two.

Off to look at the weather chart for biking, and hope that picks up my mood...

Entendre? Make mine a double.: holding handsdeirdre_c on March 6th, 2007 08:23 pm (UTC)
Dealing with a parent's decline is so stressful and heart-rending. I hope your MIL continues to get well and stay well. *hugs*
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Venushalfshellvenus on March 6th, 2007 09:11 pm (UTC)
Thank you, Deirdre.

Oh, I'm hoping this is all a side-effect of her pain medications, and that it will fade away as she goes off of those. Because she had an epidural and not a general anaesthetic, I think the chances are better that this isn't a permanent situation. At least I hope so. :(

Thanks so much for listening. It's been a tough few months.
jeyhawk: normal: booklovejeyhawk on March 6th, 2007 08:29 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear about your Mother In Laws health and I understand the pressure on your husband and his siblings. My grandmother went through something similar one of her last trips to the hospital, it turned out it was because they had changed her meds while in the hospital and it was really a form of withdrawal though.

Also I claimed a table. :0P
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Venushalfshellvenus on March 6th, 2007 09:15 pm (UTC)
I'm hoping it's her meds, because that's the most likely answer-- even with sudden dementia as a possibility. Which doesn't seem likely, thank goodness. She'd be taking a new medication for the pain now, and perhaps combined with her age this side-effect is happening.

I certainly hope so, because it's tough for everyone all around. She's genuinely scared and unhappy almost every single night, and it's hard to reassure her when she doesn't understand why she's in the hospital to begin with. *crosses fingers that it's the meds*

Thanks for your kind words-- you must see some of this in your profession, and that can't be easy for the staff either.
bluesister on March 6th, 2007 09:44 pm (UTC)
A slow decline is...ach. I hope your MIL bounces back. Does her dr know? I like your idea about a med side effect.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Venushalfshellvenus on March 7th, 2007 12:50 am (UTC)
I hope that's not where she's headed. She's done really well all this time, though she moved from her enormous house into assisted living nearly a year ago, and she'd moved again because she decided she didn't need quite that much assistance. Her fall was a fluke, with just really unfortunate results. But she's been very sharp mentally all this time, and it's more the emphysema and recurring pneumonia that really trouble her.

I emailed my husband about checking into her medications. The painkillers are definitely new, and they might have tweaked something else while she's at the hospital.

Hope this gets better soon. It's gotten worse in the last week, and since being overtired seems to be the largest cause of this syndrome... the anxiety that the confusion and paranoid create keeps her awake, which starts a vicious circle. :(
bluesister on March 7th, 2007 03:08 am (UTC)
Toward the end, my mother was very confused, didn't know family members, all that. We were sure for over a week that she'd had a stroke (she couldn't talk).

Turns out confusion and memory loss is common when you're not getting enough oxygen. And my mother wasn't--her lungs were filling with fluid instead. Then she was intubated and became way more lucid.

I bring this up since you mentioned lung trouble...
plutogirl10 on March 6th, 2007 10:23 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear that, darling. Am sending good thoughts your & your family's way :)
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Venushalfshellvenus on March 7th, 2007 12:51 am (UTC)
Thank you so much, Plutogirl. That certainly makes me feel better, and I appreciate that very much. :)
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The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Venushalfshellvenus on March 7th, 2007 08:40 pm (UTC)
Thank you, Claire.

It is worrisome, and we'll all just hoping it eases back soon. Her physical recovery of the broken limbs is going really, really well. It's more a question of her getting past this state of emotional turmoil. My husband's going to talk to her doctors about her medication.
Pix: Dean Turn Awaypixel_0 on March 7th, 2007 02:11 am (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear about your MIL, but take all the time you need to in real life. You know we'll be waiting for you back here when you're ready to come back. In the meantime, I'll be sending happier thoughts your way. *hugs*
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Venushalfshellvenus on March 7th, 2007 08:43 pm (UTC)
Thank you, Pixel.

I'm really hoping that it doesn't get worse-- she's having a hard enough time of it already. And I don't want the kids to be aware of it. Right now, they're only aware of the broken bones parts, even though they haven't been down to see her lately (because she's not herself right now).

Keeping my fingers crossed that it's her meds triggering it (which seems very likely) and that an adjustment to them will take care of it...

Princess Robot Bubblegum!astrothsknot on March 7th, 2007 02:39 am (UTC)
I hope it's just tempory
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Venushalfshellvenus on March 7th, 2007 08:44 pm (UTC)
Oh, me too.

The good thing is that, because she had only a local anaesthesia and not a general one, it's unlike that anything permanent is causing the problem. It's probably her meds, and I'm hoping they can tweak that. *crosses fingers*