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09 February 2007 @ 11:43 pm
And I have this to add...  
Wouldn't it have been great if, when I recc'd stuff in the past, I'd thought to, I dunno, use an LJ tag for that? To see, for instance, if I already recc'd a story in the past and I'm flailing about it all over again? Not that the author would mind, I'm sure.

What it boils down to is, tagging up front beats fishing through old posts to see what you should have tagged!

I worked at home today, and my son "sicked" at home unexpectedly. This means no exercise, Guitar Hero in the background for a bit that I am not playing *whimper*, and delayed finishing off of stuff until late in the afternoon and evening. BUT... I finally got my brain around what I hope will be the final proposal for a larger project. I've been trying to encompass that for the last 2-3 weeks, and I took a preliminary stab at it Wednesday and then had to fold in refinements from a counter-proposal. I personally think this new version is gold, but one of the other team members is of the type (I'm serious) that is "Yeah! Yeah, yeah,yeah, that!" "No wait, not that part." "Yeah, yeah, yeah!" "But I don't think we're ready to finalize this for the long term."

Honestly, at a meeting two weeks ago where he did exactly that I was fighting off both a reflexive eyeroll, and the urge to blurt out, "If you don't stop flip-flopping like that you're going to fall right off the table."

This is why things cannot always be driven to consensus. Gah!

Speaking of which.... anybody else but me watching the last two week's "Trading Spouses"? This stint could best be described as "Cream-Puff Lesbian trades places with She-Devil." The one woman is so tender-hearted, and she spent her week in a demon's nest of angry, hateful people. And persuaded them of the value of kindness. The other woman spewed one piece of ugliness after another everywhere she went, and proclaimed great unfairness in how she was treated and "not listened to" (do you suppose there was a reason why?). She shamed my home-state with her behavior, not to mention human beings as a species altogether.

At the end, Devil-Woman finally had an inkling that she might, in fact, be kind of an awful person (a revelation, I tell you). The miracle here was really the other Mom, who in a very short period of time made Devil-Woman feel that she had been heard, and rather than condemning her style with her family presented it as "Your family could use more love and kindess, and you need to help guide them in that"-- phrasing it as if Devil-Woman was of course capable of that and could offer that. I am simply in awe of that woman's people skills-- she broke through the denial and armor and was heard without seeming to lecture.

And of course, I am dying to know if in fact Devil-Woman was able to maintain that viewpoint and bring her family around to a place of anything less ugly than where they started. Where are the follow-up episodes? I ask you...
 
 
 
The Good, The Bad and The Lanathelana on February 10th, 2007 09:15 am (UTC)
I love tags. I hate that so much of my old stuff isn't properly tagged, but I'm way too lazy to go back to it and tag it. Before I used to be the most lazy person when it came to memories so that isn't exactly helping much either.
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Venushalfshellvenus on February 10th, 2007 10:10 pm (UTC)
Looking at your examples helped to to really understand what tags were for, as opposed to tagging every story I wrote with its name (which is ridiculous when you look now at how many I've written)!

I had no idea that your tagged posts of a certain ilk would all line up in chronological order, and so if you do "recs" or multi-chapter stories, they're really great for that. There's also my "cycling" tag, just because. But in general, my real-life rantiness doesn't have things so meaningful that I need to find them again, unlike some people. ;)
elanurelelanurel on February 10th, 2007 05:31 pm (UTC)
My incredibly useful "life stuff" tag gets over-used entirely too much. Granted, I do try and spread the love when it comes to using other tags at the same time, but I'm horribly naughty when it comes to ditching my "life stuff."
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Venushalfshellvenus on February 10th, 2007 10:12 pm (UTC)
:D At least you know where your "life stuff" is! I have one for "cycling" (a regular area I blather on), and I recently discovered the use of tagging those monthly "what I wrote" thingies (especially when doing the year-end Writing Meme).

But then there are people on my f-list who will invent new, random tags for nearly every post, which is the polar opposite of me. :D
elanurelelanurel on February 11th, 2007 07:04 am (UTC)
And you, too, can read about the boring minutiae of my life. ;-P

I do tend to tag my writing, but since I post it in another journal, it's a little easier to point back and say, "I wrote this."
bluesister on February 10th, 2007 06:16 pm (UTC)
I watching Trading Spouses only once and it was interesting but a bit painful. I didn't like the idea of the show when I first heard it but it is really about exposing people to new ideals or values, huh?

I'd watch the show more if you did the write-ups. There, a new job for you!
The Coalition For Disturbing Metaphors: Venushalfshellvenus on February 10th, 2007 10:22 pm (UTC)
I didn't like the idea of the show when I first heard it but it is really about exposing people to new ideals or values, huh?
When it works, it IS. But sometimes they'll throw together people who are polar opposites just to watch the sparks fly, and that works much less well.

The individuals involved entirely make the difference, and I preferred when they used to also trade Dads.

But I've seen amazing things on that show. There was the warm black woman trading places with the white neo-hippie woman whose husband was ultra-controlling and in hiding from the world. The white woman discovered what it was like to be personally celebrated and it moved her to tears, and the black woman helped the control-freak man to really look at the shattering incident that had made him withdraw from the world and be so controlling. She couldn't change him much, but by the time his own wife came back there would have been some reevaluation of 1)the family bed involving a 15 & 17-year-old boy and the parents, 2)homeschooling until all eternity and not actually leaving for college because OMG!outsideWorld, and 3)the idea that birthdays and such are ignored because no single individual is that special. I mean damn-- if you're going to isolate your whole family from the world, you'd better be offering extra love rather than withholding it.

There was the chicken-farmer Dad trading places with the Yuppie Jewish Dad, and he brought warmth into a house with an anxious, critical and neurotic mother. He could not have been more different than the culture he was joining, but he tried to roll with it and provide support while he was there. And I think his counterpart discovered not only damn hard work and some humility (he was assigned to build a chicken coop, and did a pretty lousy job), but also the value of living with people who had a sense of humor.

There was the OCD mom who traded with the sloppy, loving mom. OCD mom nearly had a heart-attack in her setting, but the other mom showed the OCD-victimized family how to relax and enjoy the moment.

Clearly I could go on and on... I don't watch it that often, but when I do it's either train-wreck fascinating or there's something very moving and good that comes out of at least part of it. :)